COUPLES THERAPY
IN SAN DIEGO & ACROSS CALIFORNIA

Reignite the spark & get back on the same page.

You’re caught in a cycle of conflict that’s been more destructive than constructive.

The same arguments keep coming up, and you often both walk away feeling frustrated and misunderstood—it’s more like you’re on opposing teams than working together as a unit. There’s always an underlying tension between you, and the connection you once shared feels like it’s slipping away. Things are so much harder than you feel they should be, and the lack of communication, trust, and intimacy has left you feeling distant, overwhelmed, and unsure of where things are headed.

Maybe you’ve been…

  • Feeling like you're speaking two different languages, always missing each other’s point

  • Hurt that your partner seems more focused on winning the argument than understanding your pain

  • Struggling to agree on how to handle things like financial issues, in-law dynamics, or parenting

  • Noticing that the intimacy you once had—emotionally, physically, mentally—has faded

  • Dealing with the weight of past hurts, infidelity, or trust issues that keep resurfacing

You don’t have to stay stuck. Through therapy, you can learn to feel safe in your relationship again and move forward together.

OUR APPROACH

In couples therapy, we help you and your partner learn to speak each other's "language." We all communicate in different ways, and it’s easy to expect our partner to just “get us,” or somehow know what we need and how we feel.

Instead of continuing to miss each other’s signals, you and your therapist will work together to learn how to share thoughts and feelings openly, so you can cultivate a deeper understanding between you.

We also work to break away from magical thinking—the idea that our partner should be able to read our mind. The work we’ll do in therapy can help you both get into the habit of saying what you mean and sharing what’s on your mind, so there’s less confusion and more connection. This can make a huge difference in both of you feeling heard and understood.

Together, we’ll also explore how past experiences shape the way we show up in relationships. By understanding what your partner has been through, you can offer the kind of support they need—and vice-versa. This process is about learning to depend on each other in a healthy way, healing old wounds, and creating a strong bond that feels safe and reliable.

HOW THERAPY HELPS

Through couples therapy, you can…

  • Begin to believe your partner has your best intentions at heart

  • Create more time for fun, shared experiences, and joy in your relationship

  • Focus on the wellbeing of the relationship rather than arguing about who’s right

  • Communicate more openly and better express your needs

  • Work as a team and tackle challenges together 

  • Have deeper emotional and physical intimacy

  • Set shared goals for the future and reinforce your commitment to moving forward together

SESSIONS AVAILABLE IN-PERSON IN SAN DIEGO & ONLINE ACROSS CALIFORNIA

Break the cycles that aren’t working & rediscover your connection.

FAQs

Common questions about couples therapy

  • It really depends on what you're looking to explore or work on as a couple. Some people are able to solve their issues after a few months of sessions, while others might benefit from more time to dig deeper. We’ll check in regularly to see how things are going and adjust as needed.

  • Your therapist will discuss with you the length and cadence of sessions they feel will be most effective for your work together, but couples sessions are either 50 or 100 minutes long. In the beginning of working together, you’ll likely be meeting weekly with your therapist, and may adjust to a biweekly or monthly schedule after some progress has been made.

  • If you’re noticing patterns in your relationship that feel stuck or hard to talk about, it might be a good time to think about couples therapy. Therapy can be helpful when communication feels strained, or if there are recurring issues that need some extra attention. Reach out here for a free consultation.

  • That’s okay! You can still work on how you show up in your relationships through individual therapy. By focusing on your own growth and understanding, you’ll likely see shifts in how you relate to your partner, even if they’re not in the room with us. You can read more about individual therapy for relationships here.

  • Couples therapy can be really effective when both people are open to the process and willing to take accountability for themselves throughout. It’s not going to magically fix everything, but it can be helpful for understanding each other better and finding healthier ways to communicate. Success is defined by what each person wants out of the experience, so while it doesn’t always "work" in the way we might expect, it often leads to growth—whether that’s together or individually.